Discussions

At the chicago center for relationship counseling, we believe that genuine connection begins with how we relate to one another, both inside and outside the therapy room. At Center Focused Therapy, we take a relational approach to addressing difficulties in partnerships, families, and friendships. This means that in addition to exploring and addressing your relationship concerns outside of therapy, we also use the therapeutic relationship itself as a means of gaining insight and fostering change in how you interact with others. Our approach not only helps you improve the specific relationships that might have led you to seek counseling in the first place, but also provides you with a greater sense of authenticity and connection in all areas of your life.

The Relational Approach to Therapy

When you engage with the chicago center for relationship counseling, you will notice that our therapists prioritize the quality of the connection with you. Rather than simply offering advice or taking a strictly cognitive-behavioral stance, we work to co-create a safe, collaborative environment. By collaborating in this way, we encourage clients to recognize patterns in communication, emotional expression, and boundary-setting that may be hindering their connections. Through an emphasis on empathy, validation, and attunement, we help you identify how past experiences, attachment styles, and unspoken expectations shape the way you relate to loved ones.

How Our Therapeutic Relationship Facilitates Change

Within each therapy session, our clinicians at the chicago center for relationship counseling model the very relational skills they teach. For example, if you struggle with asserting your needs or become defensive when feeling criticized, the therapist may gently point out moments when you shut down or deflect. Together, you’ll explore the origins of these reactions—whether rooted in childhood experiences, past betrayals, or ingrained family beliefs—and practice healthier responses in the safety of the therapy room. By experiencing empathy, accountability, and attunement from your therapist, you learn to bring those same qualities to your interactions outside of therapy. Over time, this relational enactment can help you deeply internalize more adaptive ways of connecting, advocating for yourself, and expressing vulnerability.